Hi guys, how are you doing today? I hope you are doing great mentally and emotionally. Today I just wanted to share with you a few thoughts I elaborated last evening while watching cosmo, an amazing TV show by the one and only Neil Degrasse Tyson (highly recommended it).
The first thing that comes to my mind is that I have never in my life experienced a “normal” or traditional Christmas eve or day, there were always something wrong and me and my brother were happy to be together but still, the situation wasn’t nice. That has lead me to avoiding any kind of tradition, any kind of festive atmosphere and becoming the grinch with the only difference that I will never be as funny as Jim Carrey. Shocking, I know.
What I am trying to say is that, without even mentioning the total shitshow that this year was, Christmas period is a difficult time in some cases. The society, and I am not saying this in a mean or frustrated way, creates some sort of hype, aspectation in having the best food, the best gifts, the best families. And in the majority of the cases, that is totally bullshit.
We don’t live in a coca cola 90s TV spot, we deal with problems and difficult traumas that we carry from the childhood. And that is totally normal, and that’s ok.
The most important thing, when I feel like I don’t belong here, when I see all of my friends having fun with their family, is to remember that it is ok to not wanting to celebrate, it is ok to not feel super festive or joyful. It is ok if we are struggling and situation like these, trigger us.
I would have like to tell you guys how I deal with this all situation, after a lifetime of experience, but I can’t. The only thing I want to tell you, if you feel the same, is that Christmas is just another day of the year to feel love, and to tell someone you love him or her. So when I am feeling down, I switch off my phone, I don’t go on insta and watch a thousands of stories, I just remember who are the people in my life that I do love and love me back. Social media can be a real trigger these days and an anxious state of mind must always be distant from any technical device. We don’t need to feed our fears with irrationals thoughts.
It is a difficult time, especially this year but if you feel like an outkast, don’t create a viral spiral in your head, stop those thoughts and remember that you are not alone. As cheesy as it sounds, it is something that always helps me, knowing that I am not crazy to feel certain feelings. Maybe is not something we will always be able to appreciate, but being a sensible person, is a gift and a course at the same time, but if we train ourselves to manage it, to work together with it and not letting it go wildly, it can be our best instrument.
Allowing those feelings, acknowledging them, nursing them and go on. We are not what society or mass culture dictate us, we are what we create everyday step by step in our everyday relationships. Those are the values that we must hang on. Especially during this period of the year.
And after all guys, we will always have Easter day.
Joking, lots of love and I will see you soon folks!